How To Choose a Family Law Attorney

For most people, choosing a family law attorney is a daunting task. You are in the midst of a life change and you should choose a lawyer that you and depend on and trust. We have provided some tips on how to choose a family law attorney.

Tip #1: Make sure one of the firm’s primary practice areas is family law. Firms that advertise themselves as experts in many fields are usually not knowledgeable about the complexities of family law.  You should seek an attorney that has a primary practice in family law to ensure the lawyer is up to date about divorce and custody law.

Tip #2: Choose a lawyer that has a history of timely communication.  Communication in a divorce or custody case is crucial, and the attorney should be available by phone or email.  Clients’ primary complaint about family lawyers is the inability to get in touch with them.  Make sure the attorney you are considering has illustrated he or she is prompt in returning phone calls and emails.

Tip #3: Your personality should be compatible with the lawyer’s personality.  When you meet a lawyer, you should feel comfortable with him or her.  Family law cases involve many personal details, both intimate and financial.  You should be able to speak freely with your lawyer without feeling embarrassed or threatened.  A good lawyer will listen to your marital history and make sure to understand your position and goals.

Tip #4: Find a lawyer who is willing to negotiate.  In family cases, there is no winner and loser.  Everyone should be working to come up with the best outcome for the family.  The attorney should make every effort to negotiate and come to a settlement, as well as prepare for trial.

Tip #5: Choose a lawyer who will be practical.  No lawyer should promise you will get everything you want.  The lawyer should be honest in how to distribute the marital assets and keep the best interest of the children in mind.


If you do need a family law attorney, be sure to consider these tips before you sign a retainer agreement.  Be sure you hire the right lawyer from the start to help you present your best case.

17 Thoughts to “How To Choose a Family Law Attorney”

  1. I like how you point out that with family law cases, everyone should try to come up with the best outcome for everyone. My ex-husband and I have recently gone through a divorce, and we need to figure out who gets custody of our two kids. I’ll be using your tips to find a good lawyer for me and my kids.

  2. My daughter is looking for a quality family lawyer to help her handle her divorce in the quickest and smoothest way possible for her and her children, so I am glad that I found this article. It is interesting that you say to find a lawyer who specializes in family law because they will have the most knowledge about your case. Also, I will definitely tell my daughter to find a lawyer who is easy to communicate with and answers her questions and concerns.

  3. I appreciate your tip on making sure that you hire a firm that specializes in family law so that you can be sure they are up to date on divorce and custody law. My brother and his wife are separating and might be getting a divorce. I think that he should find a family law attorney to help him out and make sure that he gets what he deserves.

  4. Thanks for pointing out that you should choose a family attorney who is readily available by phone or email since communication is crucial during a custody case. My sister recently told me that she and her husband have decided to get divorced. They have two kids together, so they custody negotiation might get complicated. I’ll definitely suggest she consider the lawyer’s communication skills when she makes her choice!

  5. I like how you said to choose a lawyer that has a history of timely communication. I am looking for ways to choose a family attorney. Thanks for the tips on choosing an attorney.

  6. I agree with you when you pointed out that family law cases involve a lot of personal details, so it is best to hire a lawyer that matches my personality. It won’t be easy for me to disclose information to a person I do not get along with, so this tip is reasonable. I will be sure to take note of this because I want to win the child custody case I intend to file.

  7. Thank you for all these fantastic tips to find a family law attorney! One thing that I really stood out to me is that you mention being compatible with their personality. I know that I tend to work better with someone that gets along with me.

  8. Thanks for explaining that a family law attorney should make every effort to negotiate and come to a settlement, as well as prepare for a trial. My sister has been trying to talk to her husband about getting a divorce, but so far her husband has been nonnegotiable because of how angry he is about the situation. I think that if my sister hired an attorney, then the whole process of trying to get a divorce will go much smoother for her and her angry husband.

  9. Thanks for this advice for choosing a family law attorney. I didn’t know it could be good to try to find an attorney that makes an effort to negotiate. This sounds extremely useful especially if many issues could be resolved peacefully.

  10. I think that it is important to have a personality fit with the family law firm that you are using. The lawyer will be representing you and you need to feel comfortable talking to them like you said. If I was in need of a family law firm, I would search multiple firms until I found one that clicked well.

  11. I appreciate how you mentioned that when choosing a family law attorney, you should choose one that specializes specifically in family and divorce law because they will be more likely to be up-to-date about divorce and custody law to better help you. My friend is going through a tough separation with her husband, but what troubles her most is trying to figure out with which parent the kids will live and who will keep the house. I’m sure she’d benefit from working with a divorce attorney that is well-versed in the field of family law so that she can have the assurance that she get the best outcome for her and her kids.

  12. Thank you for these tips on finding a lawyer. I need a family attorney. Hopefully, I can do some research and find the right one.

  13. Thanks for posting your knowledgeable tips on divorce family law. Really Helpful tips.

  14. I know someone that needs a family attorney, and I want to be helpful by finding one for the. Your suggestion of hiring someone that specializes in family laws that are up to date on divorce and custody law was really useful. With that set, I’ll find one that can suit their needs to help them.

  15. I appreciate your suggestions on how to choose a family lawyer. My brother is thinking of filling for a divorce soon. He will be interested to know that you said to find an attorney who is good at negotiating and not winning since there really isn’t a winner or loser when it comes to a divorce.

  16. I never thought about choosing one that matches your personality. My sister is getting a divorce with her husband and is wanting to find one. I’ll make sure to pass these tips along to her so she can know how to find an attorney.

  17. I needed the best family law attorney but I was confused about how to choose the right family law attorney. But after reading this article I got the essential tips that I can consider while choosing a family law attorney. Thanks for sharing such an informative article with us.

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